How to Build Rapport on the Phone

Build Rapport on the Phone for Success


Here are some suggestions for how to build rapport over the phone and what the contact centre can do to help them.  

Why Is It Important to Build Rapport On The Phone?

Rapport building is an integral part of the communication process. Lack, or absence, of rapport can fundamentally affect the outcome of any conversation.

When you build rapport, the conversation runs smoothly, it is enjoyable and the results are so much better than when the communication is strained and advisors fail to ‘gel’ with the person they are talking to.

Good rapport isn’t about ‘making best friends’ with the caller. It means creating a comfortable ‘state’ where all parties converse freely and comfortably.

Good rapport isn’t about ‘making best friends’ with the caller. It means creating a comfortable ‘state’ where all parties converse freely and comfortably. The extra benefit is that it makes the time spent with the caller more enjoyable for the advisor.

So, it’s important for advisors to know a few simple techniques to help them build rapport over the phone, while contact centre managers can also do their bit to make this process easier.

How Can Contact Centre Advisors Build Rapport?

Here are some ideas for advisors to create good rapport.

1. Open the Call With a Smile

Believe it, a smile can be heard and a ‘smiling voice’ is more welcoming and relaxing. Your caller will subconsciously appreciate it and like you.

One of Call Centre Helper’s readers, Kevin, has found that “indeed it does work. We have done practice sessions where two advisors sit back to back and one of them talks and the other listens.

“They can normally hear if the advisor is smiling, as well as things like posture. It also comes across if someone is grumpy and slouching.

“In fact, if you try to put on a positive tone without smiling it’s very difficult. I suppose that is where the cheesy phrase ‘Smile and Dial’ comes from.”

2. Start the Conversation With a “Warm Up”

Start the conversation with a simple question that will let your caller know you are human!

This could be ‘how is your day so far?’ or ‘how is the weather where you are today? Better than here, I hope!’ Most people will respond to you in a friendly manner and it helps to relax you and your caller by breaking the ice.

Reply to their answer with a relevant but positive response and then move the call forward, with something like: “That’s great, I’m glad you are having a good day. How can I help with your call today?” Or, “So the weather is as bad as it is here. Never mind, the sun could be out tomorrow for us. How can I help with your call today?”

3. Listen Well

Advisors are often told to employ active listening, where they are basically instructed to avoid distractions and allow themselves to concentrate on your caller and their conversation.

This is important, but you could even take this one step further and use reflective listening. This is where you try to understand the customer’s points and then repeat them back, to ensure that everything has been fully understood.

By doing so, you are demonstrating to the customer that you are mentally engaged in the process, while you can do your bit to ensure mutual understanding.

For way to train your agents in active listening, read this article on How to Train Active Listening in the Contact Centre. 

A diagram showing reflective listening. Point 1 is "The handle of my hoover is broken and I want a refund", 2. "So the handle is broken and you're asking for a refund?" 3. "Yeah, that's right"

4. Let the Caller Know You Are Listening

Let the caller know you are listening by responding with gentle and soft ‘ums’ and ‘ahs’ as they speak. These are also known as “verbal nods”.

Allow the speaker to finish what they are saying – practise this with every call. If you interrupt, your caller could become frustrated. No matter how many techniques you are taught to use on the phone, common courtesy will always be essential.

For more on this topic, read our article: The Best Courtesy Words and Phrases to Use in Customer Service

5. Use Words That Your Caller Uses

Use words that your caller uses in their conversation, especially any adjectives – the words they use to describe something. They have chosen to use these words, so they have a relevance to the content; an alternative word may not have the same meaning for them.

For example, if your caller says: “the results were excellent”, the word ‘excellent‘ was chosen because it reflects what the speaker felt. To build rapport use the same word back at any relevant time.

So, you should say something like: “I agree with what you said earlier, the results were excellent”.

If you were to reply with: “I agree with what you said earlier, the results were ok”, it will subconsciously confuse your caller, because they didn’t say “ok”; their chosen word was “excellent”.

6. Show Empathy With Your Caller

To show empathy means to share in another’s emotions, thoughts, or feelings, and is a great way to build rapport.

Empathy can be shown by using phrases such as:

  • “I understand what you mean”
  • “I can see where you are coming from”
  • “That must have made you feel really good”
  • “I understand why you would think that way”

When using empathy statements like those listed above it is good to use personal pronouns, active verbs and show authenticity, as highlighted in our article: 18 Empathy Statements That Help Improve Customer-Agent Rapport

By showing empathy, you are creating a sense of trust and mutual understanding, which are crucial factors in the rapport-building process.

7. Go Off Script

If you are uptight or trying to be someone or something you are not, it will act as a barrier to building rapport. However, it is often hard to not be “something” you are not when following a script.

So, if you read a script as part of your job, put your own personality into it, so that it sounds as though the words are your words and that you are not reading from a piece of paper.

If you read a script as part of your job, put your own personality into it, so that it sounds as though the words are your words and that you are not reading from a piece of paper.

Use inflection, modulation and pitch to help make the script interesting for the listener. Your caller will thank you for it. Isn’t it true that we sometimes ‘switch off’ when we hear what sounds like a script being read to us?

8. Be Friendly

Christine Knott

Christine Knott

Be friendly. It is possible to remain professional and courteous and still be friendly. This is easily achieved by using good inflection and modulation in your voice, by showing an interest in your caller’s conversation and by sharing laughter in light-hearted moments, when the opportunity to do so arises during the call.

While advisors are often told to try and mirror the customer’s tone, it can be good to try to stay upbeat and positive, as this will hopefully “rub-off” on the customer too.

For more on staying positive over the phone, read our article: Top 25 Positive Words, Phrases and Empathy Statements

Thanks to Christine Knott from Beyond the Box

9. Match the Speed of the Customer’s Speech

One of our readers, Greg Woodley, also recommends matching the speed at which the caller talks, because “people tend to think at the speed they talk.

“So, if the customer talks slowly, you need to too. If you don’t, they will not be able to process what you are saying. Conversely, if you talk slow to a fast talker you’ll bore them.”

Highly skilled advisors may also be able to match tone and style, which can help build rapport by demonstrating commonality. After all, most people like people who are like themselves.

10. Imagine That You Are in the Customer’s Shoes

How would you like to be approached and dealt with? If you approach the call in the manner that would work for you, you’ll be fine.

Duncan Powell

Duncan Powell, another one of our readers, says that the first piece of advice he would give to advisors would be “to spin things around and imagine that you are in your customer’s shoes.”

Ask the advisor, “How would you like to be approached and dealt with? If you approach the call in the manner that would work for you, you’ll be fine.”

Approaching the call in this way may also add authenticity, as the advisor is handling the call in the way that they genuinely think is best. This could hopefully help to remove the “robotic tone” that some advisors have and all customers dread.

11. Experiment with Neurolinguistic Programming (NLP)

To take all the advice above to the “next level” Gary Hughes, another one of our readers, suggests that you “try experimenting with Neurolinguistic Programming (NLP).”

NLP involves determining customer preferences and then being able to present them with better, personalised options, consequently boosting advisor–customer rapport.

To find out more about NLP, read our article: Making NLP Work in Your Call Centre

What Can the Contact Centre Do to Help?

So, now we know what advisors can do to boost rapport on the phone, what can contact centre management do to help them? Here are three simple suggestions.

Don’t Target Advisors on Average Handling Time

It is not uncommon for a customer to sense that the advisor wants to get rid of them, so the contact centre needs to preach the power of personalisation – according to Gerry Brown, the Chief Customer Rescue Officer at The Customer Lifeguard.

If you have the right message at the right time with the right people, you’ll get the right result.

Gerry Brown

Gerry Brown

Gerry Brown

Gerry says that personalisation is important, “whether that’s simply using people’s names correctly. These basics are fundamental to rapport, because if you have the right message at the right time with the right people, you’ll get the right result.” 

Another key basic is giving the frontline the time they need to get it right. So, banning Average Handling Time (AHT) as an advisor target is an obvious place to start.

Instead, give advisors permission to engage with customers on an emotional and personal level, giving them the space to be creative and, more importantly, be themselves.

As Theodore Roosevelt famously said: “People don’t care how much you know until they know how much you care.”

A quote from Theodore Roosevelt "People don't care how much you know until they know how much you care"

It’s Hard to Build Rapport If Expectations Aren’t Met

Research has found that 90% of frustration comes from misaligned expectations. These expectations come from previous experiences, word-of-mouth and what is being told to customers.

Often customers will choose a brand because their expectations of the company’s values align with their personal values. So, when these expectations aren’t met in the contact centre, it is hard for the advisor and the customer to build any real rapport.

Nerys Corfield, the Director of Injection Consulting, says that if a brand’s “call to action says ‘ring our experts’, then don’t give me somebody that can’t answer the question. Or, if your slogan is ‘come and have a chat with our loving caring team’, don’t give me somebody very abrasive.”

Building rapport becomes easier once the organisation understands the messages that the company is putting out there and tries to match that in the contact centre.

So, Nerys says: “Have a look at your website, have a look at your call to actions and figure out what you are saying out there.”

For example, if a brand advertises itself to be “passionate about what we do”, don’t conflict that message by having low service levels. One brand used this slogan but then had a service level of answering 100% of emails within three days, which gives a contradictory message.

For more on this subject, read our article: Seven Top Tips for Service Design

Ask the Team to Come to You With Any Barriers to Building Rapport

So often the talk of the contact centre floor will be “oh yeah, that’s rubbish, isn’t it”, or “that’s always been like that”, when discussing even the most basic of processes.

These broken processes may be hindering advisors from building rapport with the customer, so advisors need to have somewhere to go where they can raise these issues.

Nerys Corfield

Nerys Corfield says that “if something is not going to be done about it, make sure the team know why. So, if the customer takes notice of that broken process, the advisor can explain it to the customer, to ensure that it doesn’t damage their relationship with the company and the advisor.”

This happens in many contact centres, where a culture grows until there becomes an acceptance that nothing can be done and powerlessness becomes the norm.

So, make sure advisors have a suitable platform to do this, whether it is a “you said, we did” initiative, a quarterly survey or an advisor focus group.

What other tips would you suggest for building rapport in the contact centre?

Please leave your suggestions in an email to Call Centre Helper.

Originally published in May 2009. Updated and republished in January 2018. 

Published On: 17th Jan 2018 - Last modified: 18th Jan 2022
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  • Good advice, but wonder sometimes how we will be able to manage this within our targets. (Max. handling time 100s, this includes after call work)

    Adinor 7 May at 13:56
  • Adinor

    The old phrase goes that you cannot have it both ways.

    If you want to build rapport on the phone, you will improve your customer service levels. Talk time will go up, but you may find that you improve first call resolution and help to reduce agent attrition.

    Ultimately you have to question why there is a target for talk time. It may be measuring the wrong thing.

    admin 13 May at 18:20
  • Nice advice. It’s a sure help for me…

    cj supan 24 Nov at 13:40
  • Loving the advice, I will try to build rapport with my guests by using your advise! Thanks

    glenn bardill 2 Dec at 17:26
  • That’s really good and better.

    MAS. Milon 22 Aug at 08:21
  • excellent i can make sale a day

    freddie roces 12 Jan at 09:29
  • Amazing useful tips 🙂
    Keep it up !!

    Ahmed Hamdy 15 Feb at 03:36
  • This is very effective for sure,I will definitely use it in my daily life.
    Thankyou! Christine….

    Jagdish 22 Mar at 05:26
  • this is really a great help for me. I was already about to start my call center job. Thanks for posting this useful tips!

    MARK 26 Mar at 03:12
  • I was still nervous guys! From teaching on becoming a call center agent! It was like “from one hundred to zero”!

    MARK 26 Mar at 03:16
  • very perfect! im starting to use it now.
    more powers to you!

    Iya Villania Rusiana 19 Jun at 15:51
  • nice advice..

    Anonymous 18 Jul at 17:10
  • Eii!! Thanks ….. Nice advise and tips .. Sure will help me a lot and all the readers…. 2 thumbs up……. 🙂

    Digs 20 Jul at 12:34
  • With my experience in customer care I used to perfect rapport and it felt great by due to changing environment and surrounding I guess I lost the touch along the way.

    Clement 10 Oct at 15:15
  • Thanks for this advice.. A lot of help in our team.. I used to look for something that can better help us out in giving out good customer service.. Now I got you.. Thanks again.. 🙂

    Krissy 9 Jan at 19:58
  • Nice advice..

    vinu 13 Mar at 15:37
  • I just want to share this experience to all of you out there,because i just failed my final exam just happen a week ago and i am so stress.But believe me the reason why i am taking all of this tips,because i want to prove something to myself,and i will not stop on believing to my self.Some said,don’t be content of what you have or what you achieve right now,just keep on trying and striving.

    Esperiniño A.salinas 15 May at 02:59
  • Thank you !!. The tips were very good and inspiring..

    Martin 25 Sep at 07:22
  • very useful. thank christine

    frankie vergara 7 Jul at 16:15
  • Thank u so much Christine , I’m from India and working for a UK call center, I want to become a best call taker so, this was really helpful for me, I’ll start using these sentences and build up a good conversation

    Divya 26 Jul at 07:52
  • Thank you for the tips…I hope my friend and I can have a transfer today.. We are first timers as call center agents…whew!!!

    Faye 17 Feb at 15:47
  • Great! I used to work in inbound call center before. This will be my first time to do outbound calls on my second call center job. All necessary empathy words are shown and it makes me feel happy and more confident! More power to you Ms Christine! Please continue touching our lives! Thank you!

    Nabila 20 Apr at 14:35
  • thank u so much for the info.I will try from now on.

    Zoha Ali 27 Feb at 05:23
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